A Review of In The Next Room or The Vibrator Play by Sarah Ruhl

On Saturday the 2nd of November, I was fortunate enough to be able to experience the award-nominated play by Sarah Ruhl, either called In The Next Room or The Vibrator Play. I was also lucky enough that the showing was audio described, though the play would have worked well enough without AD.

It is the 1880s. Electricity has just been brought into richer houses. Dr. Givings is studying early psychology practices and has invented a wonderful new machine which he uses to treat women for Hysteria. This machine is an electrical vibrator and the treatment he proscribes is orgasms or “paroxisms” and lots of them.

Though he is observant, he fails to see that his wife Catherine, who has just had a new baby and is running out of milk, is feeling neglected and unloved. One of his patients has a housekeeper, a woman of colour, who recently lost a baby so she is then employed as a wetnurse and the situation develops from there.

Catherine gets lonely and with the help of the other patients as well as the midwife and the housekeeper, not only does she learn about what her husband is doing in the next room, but she learns a lot about love, how the body works, how to take back her powere as a woman and a myriad of other things about herself and others.

Because our group was composed of blind and vision impaired people, we had a tactile tour before the play. We were allowed to feel the whole set including the vibrator and the multiple heads being used. I think that Funkit Kenton would have had a field day. The set designer was very clever. The costumes and the furniture were all very ornate, as would have been seen in the house of a well-to-do doctor in the 1880s. The audio description was done very thoroughly as always and even with this kind of play, they were not squeamish.

The play not only dealt with subjects such as empowering women and sexuality in general, also, the lack thereof and even some issues surrounding race and gender as one patient was a man who suffered from hysteria, a very rare case, and there was a way to “cure” him as well. Two parts stood out vividly to me. One where Leo, a painter, is saying that his friend was so aghast seeing his wife for the first time after marriage because no one had told him women had body hair. He had only seen them in statues. The other was when the wet-nurse told the women that the feelings they were getting were like the ones she had when having relations with her husband and one of the other women said, after they had all sounded aghast at this, that her husband was so considerate, he told her to close her eyes so the pain would go away more quickly. Such barbaric times and there are still people who deal with this on a daily basis in 2018.

I would thoroughly recommend the play to anyone interested in history, the evolution of sexuality and sexual education. There were many comedic elements but among those, so many little scenes that were designed to make you think. I think the play is deserving of the prizes for which it was nominated.

Review of the Rocks-Off Ruby Glow

Since discovering that in fact, I do like vibes, I’ve looked for things to review and one of them, because of its unusual design and audience, was the Rocks-Off Ruby Glow and I am so glad I did. If you have no idea what is being put into your hand, you will be baffled at first unless you’ve read reviews and know what you’re looking for.

It’s so hard to describe but basically, it’s a silicone-covered piece of plastic that has a ball at one end and a thing like a tooth with notches on one side at the other. It sits on a flat surface with the ball and the tooth thing sticking out on the top. It has two buttons at the tooth end to adjust both the ball and the tooth. There are 10 functions for each motor as well. The idea is that you sit on it and ride it. it is powered by two tripple A batteries.

I’ve been cynical about riding things but this device actually worked for me. I sat on it with the ball bit where my vagina is and the tooth bit such that I can rub my clit onit and rock back and forward and that worked really well. i even had a very nice building-up type orgasm that I like. It’s only happened once so far but edging with this vibe is really pleasant. It’s non-penetrative so if I want to be filled, I will need to put in some Kegel balls or similar.

I didn’t expect to like this toy as much as I did. I was very pleasantly surprised and am happy to recommend it to those who want hands-free outer stimulation.

I look forward to being allowed to review more from Rocks-Off as it feels like they could be a good fit for me. I love unusual vibes as well as bullets and pebbles.

Dimensions

Length: 6.5 inches or 16.51 CM
Girth: 7 inches or 17.78 CM at largest point
Width: 2.25 inches or 5.71 CM at largest point
Material: body safe phalate
free silicone
cleaning: It’s splash proof so gentle soap and water or a toy cleaner will do the trick

if you would like to get your hands on a Rocks-Off Ruby Glow, you can buy it at
SheVibe Pleasure Boutique
and
LoveHoney

Review of the We-Vibe Sync

Everyone has one. The company or toy that is the equivalent of your first love. Mine is We-Vibe.

I didn’t like vibrators. Any I tried to use just didn’t work or didn’t feel good or just felt too mechanical or the orgasms didn’t give me that going up the slope feeling I could get with using my hands. Then I got the We-Vibe Sync and everything changed completely.

The We-Vibe Sync is a U shape with flexible hinges that adjust to suit the body’s shape. There is a fatter side which sits on the clitoris and a thinner side that sits inside roughly where the G-Spot should be. You can control it via its button that is on the clit side, the remote control which comes with the vibe or through the WeConnect app which is available on Ios and Android. It has the usual ten speeds and patterns and you can make your own when you use the app.

The app is accessible as such on Ios but very clunky with Voice-Over. I’m not sure how it works with the Google Accessibility Suite or TalkBack. It is compatible with Ios version 9, iPhone 5 and Android 4.4 or later.

Adding a lover isn’t fun unless someone sends you a link and you can open that in the app. Also, I’ve had the experience that the app crashes a lot on the other side, the connection doesn’t stay on for very long and things just take so long to set up that frustration is the name of the game. Hopefully this will change soon because I want to experience teledildonics at its best.

I tried it the first time and though I didn’t come with it, I edged for a long time. Then came the day when I came from it and I wanted to sing Hallelujah. See I had never had a hands-free orgasm in a sexual way and I find it hard to let another person make me orgasm without my help. I did it with the WeVibe Sync and it wasn’t completely mechanical. It actually felt good and I could keep doing it. This was a huge milestone for me. This is why I on the one hand want to wax lyrical and on the other hand, have no words. If it’s not situated right, I need to move it really quickly while coming because it’s too much otherwise.

Then there is the feeling when someone else controls it from their device. I love hackers. this is something everyone knows about me. Everyone else is scared of them, I’m the one that says “gimme!!” So the idea of someone controlling my sexual pleasure via some kind of teledildonics and talking infosec while doing it is the hottest thing there is on this Earth for me. The fact that this is a possibility is amazing to me and I’m glad I have a toy that does it and is relatively accessible. I can tell a sighted or blind person what to do with it It’s a hugely level playing field.

In the box you get the toy itself, the USB charger, the hard plastic case, a sample of lube and the remote control as well as various paper things. It’s slightly different if you get it in the Anniversary Collection but I don’t have that as yet but when I do, I will talk about it.

Dimensions: 74.8 mm x 31.4 mm x 41.7 mm or 2.95 inches x 1.22 inches x 1.64 inches.
Material: silicone coating
Body safe: yes
Waterproof: yes

If you want to get yourself one of these, you can get it from SheVibe Pleasure Boutique which is an affiliate link.

Affiliate links were used in this post. I bought this toy as a birthday present for myself before becoming a blogger but this means I have it to review.

A Review of the Tantus Steam Hunk By Tantus Inc

You know those toys where you think they are quite innocuous but they sneak up on you? That is how the Steam Hunk from Tantus Inc was for me.

I had heard about this wonderful science fiction eddifice but I had no idea what to imagine in my hands but luckily, the people at Tantus were willing to send it to me so I would know what to expect and could review it for everyone’s pleasure, mine included.

The feel was so stimtastic and different to anythingI have ever experienced when it comes to dildos. It was so robot-like and you could feel the straps and rivets and the hydraulic chambers feel a bit like capsules of the medicinal variety. I always use some kind of clitoral vibe while using a dildo because I need both kinds of stimulation. I usually use the Wevibe Tango or the Mini Swan Wand but the Je Joue Mimi or the bullet from Fun Factory are also good for this.

I thought with the relative narrowness and lack of length that not too much would happen with this toy but the head hit my G-spot and the dual density silicone made it so squeezing felt really good and then the orgasm arrived unexpectedly and was relatively intense.

It’s a toy that I would use sometimes but the feel and texture make it so that I would probably get distracted so much playing with it that I’d forget to use it for its intended purpose.

Measurements: 6.78 inches by 1.69 inches or 14.68 cm by 4.29 cm

If you would like to try the Steam Hunk for yourself, you can get it at the following places.
Tantus Inc
Peep Show Toys
SheVibe Pleasure Boutique
I was given the Steam Hunk by Tantus Inc in exchange for an unbiased review. Affiliate links have been used in this post.

A Review of Hard Drive by M. Christian

When M. Christian tweeted that he was looking for reviewers for his new anthology of tech-based erotica, I was champing at the bit to get a copy to review. Everyone who reads my blog and my twitter knows that I have a huge thing for nerds and sex and tech and what better way to combine those than in a book of tech-based erotic stories.

I was sent a PDF of the book very promptly when I emailed him and the book was in real text so it was accessible for me to read with my PDF reading program on my PC. it will most likely be readable with Voice Dream Reader and iBooks too on your smartphone. I can’t say much about any illustrations. Even if I got someone to describe them to me, I would just be talking about descriptions of said images so I will leave that part for someone who can talk about those from their own experiences.

The first thing which struck me while reading this book was how extremely sensory his writing style is. The descriptions of colours and feelings were so bright and vivid that I sometimes needed to take a break because my imagination makes me feel what I hear and read. On the other hand, it’s wonderful to know that others are very sensory and synaesthetic as well.

I also noticed as a theme all the way throughout the book the need for humans to connect with their tech and the numerous ways in which this was portrayed. From the idea of a doll who serviced one person on Fridays and the need for that person to show kindness to her to the taxi which held someone in its thrall with sexy dreams and so many other scenes, that strong need for a person to connect even in situations where connecting isn’t advised was prevalent.

The stories explored all different orientations and gender identities as well. Not only could people and their tech have different genders and orientations, these could change and often did. From this point of view, it seems that there is something for most people in the anthology.

Personally, I found the book difficult to get into. The stream of consciousness feel felt jarring to me. I didn’t get sucked into the stories and there was no point of reference for me. Also, because of how sensory everything was, I found it difficult to feel relaxed. There wasn’t the level of mental interaction that I need when reading erotica that is supposed to make me want to masturbate or to have a sexual encounter but that could be due to my very specific set of needs where that is concerned. This doesn’t mean that the book was bad, just that it wasn’t a good fit for me.

Thanks to M. Christian for allowing me to review his book. If you would like to get a copy of this book or others from the author, you can find a comprehensive list of his works here.

I received a copy of the book hard Drive in exchange for an unbiased review.

A Review of the Tantus Sam by Tantus Inc

Because I loved the Tantus Uncut 2, I wanted to review something with a bit more girth so the lovely people there sent me Sam to play with. It’s got a similar feel to what the Uncut 2 has but is a lot wider and a bit longer and there is a hole for a bullet vibe as well as a suction cup. Both come with the toy and you can alternate.

This wonderful hunk of dreamy silicone is 1.8 inches or 4.57 cm wide and 7.3 inches or 18.54 cm long and feels very penis-like when inside. The dual density silicone means that there’s give but also hardness when you squeeze and that feels so good. Even though I feel really full when using it, I don’t feel pain of any kind and I want to gush and splash everything.

I am really looking forward to what this beauty does if someone else is using it on me. I prefer using it with the suction cup because I am a still or thrusting dildo but bullet on the clit type of person.

Before I continue to wax lyrical, I’d better let you all know that you can get your own Sam at the following shops.

Tantus Inc
Peep Show Toys
SheVibe Pleasure Boutique

The Tantus Sam was sent to me by Tantus Inc in exchange for an unbiased review. Affiliate links were used in this post.

A review of the Tantus Uncut 2

I was really stoked to receive a package in the mail a couple of weeks ago and in that package was a Tantus Uncut 2. I’d never held anything from them in my hands before and the first thing I wanted to do was just to keep stroking it for as long as I could. The texture was so realistic and stimtastic compared to other dildos I have felt. With others, you can feel they are made of something else but with that one, well, it felt real. It also had that soft and hard thing that a real penis has due to the dual density silicone.

Firstly, the people at Tantus Inc were very helpful. I communicated with them via email and they were nothing but welcoming to a new reviewer. They let me know what was going on and the package arrived very quickly without any issues with Customs.

Alright, before I start waxing lyrical, I’ll do the stuff you need first.

Diameter: 1.6 inches or 4.06 CM
insertable length: 6.4 inches or 16.26 CM
Material: dual density silicone

Now, for all the feels!!!

I like to use my insertables with a clit vibe so I have both inner and outer stimulation. When I inserted the Uncut 2, it felt like it wanted to be squeezed. If I had had help, I probably would have felt like I would if it had been a live penis. I will write another post after I have had help using this toy but I think that I would enjoy it being used if someone didn’t want to do PIV or as a strapon and I would feel like I do when a flesh and blood penis satisfies me. I haven’t felt that with a dildo before and it felt amazing. I could probably squirt with this given enough stimulation and if I were relaxed enough to let that happen. I am looking forward to trying anything else given to me by this company.

You can buy the Tantus Uncut 2 here as well as lots of other toys which I can’t wait to review.

This post uses affiliate links. I was sent the Tantus Uncut 2 in exchange for a non–biased review.

Review of the Queen Bee by Hot Octopuss

I’d heard it was possible that companies would send me toys to review but it hadn’t happened yet so when I was given the opportunity to review the Queen Bee from www.hotoctopuss.com I was very happy and it’s not always taken as read that that will happen. You need a certain number of followers, etc, but I was allowed and very happy to do so.

The site is extremely accessible. I was able to read everything and the pictures are described such that I have an idea of what’s there. Also, the staff bent over backwards to help me, even sending me the pictures to go with this review. (Pictures to come soon)

I opened the package and it looks like a big hairbrush with a plate instead of bristles. The buttons are clearly marked with feelable plus and minus for speed. The other buttons are nice and feelable as well. The wonderful thing about it is no one will know what it is when they see it. It doesn’t spell “vibrator”. Sometimes, that can be handy for the purpose of discretion. It has a steady rhythm
as well as six vibration patterns. It is charged magnetically over USB and completely waterproof.

The discrete looks won’t make up for the lack of discretion in the sound. I tried to give myself orgasms with it and it was rather loud and the buttons are placed such that if you are not careful, you can change things in the middle, breaking the concentration. I’ll keep trying but it hasn’t happened as yet.

The one place where it has been amazing for me has been as a massager. I’ve used it on my shoulders and back and neck and it has relaxed me so much that when I wanted an orgasm, I was able to use other toys to make that happen. Maybe I will never get an orgasm from the Queen Bee itself but the wonderful relaxation I have gained from the toy has really helped me in ways that other toys have not. I woke up the other day with a headache that promised to become a migraine if I weren’t careful but I decided on a whim to Queen Bee my shoulders and neck and the headache went away, the tention eased and I could go back to sleep and woke up feeling a lot better.

You can buy the Queen Bee from Hot Octopuss for 119 Euros. Thank you so much to Hot Octopuss for sending me the Queen Bee for free in exchange for a non-biased review.

A Review of the Cumpanion Towl Go here to buy one

Photograph of The Cumpanion spread out. It is a grey microfiber towel with a black edge.I had heard of these little beauties all over my twitter but then I decided to order me some to see what the fuss was all about. The idea of a towel specifically for sexual after care had never entered my head but I decided to give it a go and see what would happen.

The site where you can order both the Cumpanion and the CuddleBean is very accessible for the blind. This gave it a big huge plus for me. Also Anna Rae was very helpful and friendly and she checked to see if everything was going well.

The description of the towels on the page gave me a very good idea of what to expect when they arrived. I ordered the blue Cumpanion and it was just as described. This is an oval shaped, soft microfibre towel 24 inches by 15 inches (60.96cm by 38.1cm) with an edge trimmed in satin with a pocket at one end.

The oval shape and the softness of the microfibre give the towel a soft and sensuous feel, though if you have an issue with the texture of microfibre, be warned that this is what it is. Also, make sure you don’t use fabric softeners as it takes the softness away but vinegar is a good substitute.

I used the towel both when I was masturbating alone and also when I was playing with someone else and needed to clean up afterwards and it was not abrasive and removed more of the mess than if I had used normal towels or tissues.

The only thing I can say that can be a bugbear if you are not careful is that if you are living outside of America, shipping and customs can bite you, though this has more to do with the postal service and with Customs than with the company itself.

To conclude: I would definitely recommend the Cumpanion to anyone who would like a towel to use specifically for sexual aftercare.Photograph of The Cumpanion folded into thirds. It is a grey microfiber towel with a black edge.

I would like to thank Anna Rae for the pictures to go with this review. This post was endorsed, though not sponsored by, www.byannarae.com and is completely my own opinion and work.