A Review of the Exposed Nocturnal Bullet by Blush Novelties

I was lucky enough to be given some toys to review when I went to Woodhull earlier this year and one of those was the Exposed Nocturnal Bullet by Blush Novelties.

When you hold it in your hand, it feels like someone took a We-Vibe Tango, upsized it by about a 3rd in all dimensions and added a second button on the bottom for going backwards through the patterns. It also has less of a glossy finish than the Tango.

This little device sure can pack a punch though!! With the size comes some extra power and rumble. This is really good if you want to rock your body but the down side is of course that the hand and fingers can become numb like with the other more powerful bullet vibes the more you use it in one session.

I like to use mine coupled with a dildo for insertion, preferably something that will stay where it’s put and let me squeeze. Lube isn’t an option here, it’s compulsory. I have my trusted pot of The Butters that I also got from Woodhull on my nightstand for easy access. Without that, things start to hurt very quickly.

Another thing I really like about the Exposed Nocturnal Bullet is the price. Provided you are in the US, it will be less expensive than the Tango and does do a great job at providing those wonderful build-up types of orgasms that I love.

You can buy the Exposed Nocturnal Bullet at SheVibe Pleasure Boutique and
Peep Show Toys.

Thanks very much to Blush Novelties for gifting me this toy to review. Affiliate links have been used in this post but my opinion is all my own.

A Review of In The Next Room or The Vibrator Play by Sarah Ruhl

On Saturday the 2nd of November, I was fortunate enough to be able to experience the award-nominated play by Sarah Ruhl, either called In The Next Room or The Vibrator Play. I was also lucky enough that the showing was audio described, though the play would have worked well enough without AD.

It is the 1880s. Electricity has just been brought into richer houses. Dr. Givings is studying early psychology practices and has invented a wonderful new machine which he uses to treat women for Hysteria. This machine is an electrical vibrator and the treatment he proscribes is orgasms or “paroxisms” and lots of them.

Though he is observant, he fails to see that his wife Catherine, who has just had a new baby and is running out of milk, is feeling neglected and unloved. One of his patients has a housekeeper, a woman of colour, who recently lost a baby so she is then employed as a wetnurse and the situation develops from there.

Catherine gets lonely and with the help of the other patients as well as the midwife and the housekeeper, not only does she learn about what her husband is doing in the next room, but she learns a lot about love, how the body works, how to take back her powere as a woman and a myriad of other things about herself and others.

Because our group was composed of blind and vision impaired people, we had a tactile tour before the play. We were allowed to feel the whole set including the vibrator and the multiple heads being used. I think that Funkit Kenton would have had a field day. The set designer was very clever. The costumes and the furniture were all very ornate, as would have been seen in the house of a well-to-do doctor in the 1880s. The audio description was done very thoroughly as always and even with this kind of play, they were not squeamish.

The play not only dealt with subjects such as empowering women and sexuality in general, also, the lack thereof and even some issues surrounding race and gender as one patient was a man who suffered from hysteria, a very rare case, and there was a way to “cure” him as well. Two parts stood out vividly to me. One where Leo, a painter, is saying that his friend was so aghast seeing his wife for the first time after marriage because no one had told him women had body hair. He had only seen them in statues. The other was when the wet-nurse told the women that the feelings they were getting were like the ones she had when having relations with her husband and one of the other women said, after they had all sounded aghast at this, that her husband was so considerate, he told her to close her eyes so the pain would go away more quickly. Such barbaric times and there are still people who deal with this on a daily basis in 2018.

I would thoroughly recommend the play to anyone interested in history, the evolution of sexuality and sexual education. There were many comedic elements but among those, so many little scenes that were designed to make you think. I think the play is deserving of the prizes for which it was nominated.

My Experiences with Fidelity

 

This post contains references to non-consentual sexual conduct. If this is a problem, feel free to skip it.

When I was little, I was fed the usual propaganda about what fidelity was. Apparently, you prove your loyalty and love by only having sexual relations with me and no one else. Whatever else you do, however else you treat me, if you do that, it means you’re faithful and loyal to me.

Fast forward to getting married to someone who was very much able to fit this bill. He only did sex things with me and no one else. He would be seen by a huge number of people as being faithful and loyal.

What he didn’t do was to stick up for me with a family who did everything they possibly could to break everything. Everything from steal his money so that I got blamed at first to making sexual overtures towards me to trying to cover up said overtures. When I asked him if he would stay if those sexual overtures had caused a baby, he said he didn’t know. When those overtures happened, I was the one questioned, confronted, all of this, not the family. he even as recently as last year tried to tell me I should see it from his side because he was getting it from both me and his family. I told him that if there had been offspring from the overtures, I would have got it from all sides, not him. I was out of empathy and still am.

Apparently, none of that matters if you prove your love by only doing sex things with the one person. Apparently, that makes it alright.

When I wanted to explore my fantasies, I was told that wouldn’t happen with him, that he felt threatened. So I went to someone else after telling him I would. Apparently, that’s classed as cheating. I also told him after the event what had happened. His response was to push me away because it hurt him. This is when we agreed to take sex out of our marriage.

I have since come out as polyamorous, which should have happened before I got married,when I think about it now, as it is how I have always been. I am so much happier knowing I can love those I choose, that I don’t have to choose at all, that I can love 20 people if I want to and it doesn’t mean I love any one of them less.

Yes, I go to bed with different people, both physically and virtually. I also maintain that I am faithful to every last one of them. I would stick up for them all with my family, have done so when needed.

If I am in a relationship, the partners in question get a check-in every day, get to know with whom I have played both physically and online, are put as partners into my contacts with emergency bypass priveleges, will get my time before non-partners do except when it’s my family. My savings go to funds for visiting them if they are that far away. If they need me, they have me and they have my fidelity.

I have sexy playtime with more than one person all of the time and this does not make me disloyal and it does not make me show a lack of fidelity. The sooner the world understands this, the better things will be.

The Mindsets of Sex and Kink

On the day I write this post, it’s Sunday the 9th of the 9th and I had two incidents that made me think about the same thing so here goes.

Because most of my arousal is a mental thing, I find myself getting hot more about a specific mindset than about acts themselves. This can apply to sex, kink or both.

I have a person I consider a friend. She is into many different things and some I get, some I don’t. The one thing though that stands out to me when I read her snippets or the things that get her going is the mindset and that is what gets me hot too. I’m a little but not into diapers/nappies. I am into humiliation and so is she. It’s a different kind but the root is the same.

There was also a post written by someone else about something completely different. They used words I wouldn’t use, there were references to things I would see as a hard limit but despite that, the story left me a quivering pile of liquid jelly because of the main mindset. In this case, it was emotional masochism.

For some, sex is a physical grunting growling mess. For me, it’s very cerebral and kink even more so.

Names, states of mind, the humiliating feel of being degraded, it’s all a case of mindset and sometimes, the barriers that can cross would be unimaginable if you ddin’t understand that fact.

The Mobile Device Rant

I don’t know how many times I have heard this being said. “Leave your tablet at home” or “let’s make some anti-screen time” or “no mobile phones allowed.” I hear it and my blood boils.

For most people, the smartphone or tablet is just an accessory, a thing you take with you that has movies or your work calendar or those silly games. For me, my mobile phone is a lot more than that. It’s my book reader, my mobility aid, my connection to a pair of eyes when no one else is around to help me see things, my GPS in case I don’t know where I am, and also, my Optical Character Recognition or OCR device, because heaven forbid people braille their menues or leaflets or labels on products.

I have to have my mobile device with me almost everywhere I go, not because I am an internet addict or because I can’t deal with life without screen time. It’s because since the invention of the smartphone, a huge number of apps have been invented for accessibility purposes. AS a blind person, I need apps to help me read documents such as Seeing AI, apps to give me directions like Loadstone GPS or Blindsquare. There are even apps like Aira or Be My Eyes that connect you to a sighted person, eitehr volunteer on BME or paid professional on Aira, that will tell you what is written on things when the OCR apps fail.

When I was coming home from Woodhull earlier this year, I was at the airport, the counter where I checked in was empty of people and I needed to visit the loo. There were also no people around who could have helped. I was so happy to have Aira as I could ring them up, get directions, go to the loo, come back out and go back to my seat and have someone trustworthy help me with all of these things. I couldn’t have done it without my smartphone.

There are people who would argue that there was a time before smartphones and what did people do then. I say they relied on sighted people a lot more than they do now. They just didn’t know about certain things. They did things a lot less independently than they do now. That’s what happened back then.

I’d love to go on an adult holiday. I’d really enjoy going to Desire or something similar. Question is, what’s the deal going to be with the tech that I need to get things done so that I and others like me have more of a level playing field? I’d like to have a good time and have agency and be able to consent freely. I can’t do those things if I have to rely on fellow guests or be seen as that person who needs a staff member around all the time. My tech helps me to have that level of agency and consent. People on their phones or always carrying their tablets are possibly in similar positions. Please ask and don’t assume.

My Thoughts on Hypnosis For the Kink of the Week on Molly’s Daily Kiss

As many of you know, I am hugely into hypnosis, both as a kink and a way to help others. I love to receive it, find hypnotic trance one of the best states ever, and I love to give it as well. There is nothing more wonderful than to know I have helped someone else and I do my best to do that with hypnosis.

Hypnosis Is Not Mind Control!!

In actual fact, you are hypnotising yourself. No one else can hypnotise you, strictly speaking. You are letting the other person guide your journey. It’s like healthy dominance and submission. You give up the control to the person doing the hypnotic induction. You can take it away at any time. That is a similar mindset to the d/s mindset and giving up that control feels sooooo good.

Often, when people think about hypnosis, they either think about being made to cluck like a chicken or do something equally embarrassing or they think it doesn’t work or it’s pendulums and pocket watches. That can happen but it doesn’t have to.

Most of these clichets come from stage hypnosis. Of course the person on the stage wants to make you do funny things. It’s part of the show. They will do suggestability tests and pick the person most likely to take on the suggestions. The people doing these funny things want to do them. They have put themselves in this mindset and like the attention.

The first session before you are even hypnotised, the person doing the hypnotising will talk about it with you, find out what sorts of imagery you like, what makes you react well and badly. The person wants you to be safe so they will do everything to keep things as safe as possible.

Unless otherwise specified, you will remember the whole experience. It’s like sitting on a bus or in a plane, sort of dozing, but you hear everything that’s going on. The only time you don’t remember things is when it’s discussed first.

your subconscious is a wonderful thing. If you have ethical or safety or moral issues with what someone asks you to do, your subconscious will protect you from doing those things. This is why hypnosis isn’t mind control. NO one can make you do something you really do not want to do.

Trance can happen naturally too. You are deeply into a book or a piece of music or a film. You are so far into it that you feel you are experiencing what the book or film or music is saying. It’s not some mysterious unknown state, it just isn’t talked about.

Speaking for myself, I really love being “tranced out” as it were. It’s instant subspace for me. I have sleep triggers and drop as soon as they are used by the right person. I also have some building triggers and there is one in particular that gives me tiny little peaks when used if I am in trance. it gets used outside of trance and builds me up when used that way. I hope that the tiny little peaks will at some point become fully fledged orgasms but there are some trust issues I need to work through first.

I also experience hypnotic algolagnia which means that pain transforms itself into pleasure when I am in trance. I want to experiment more with this as it’s a way where I can get a lot out of impact play. Not only that but it’s helpful when I have to have medical procedures done. If anaesthetic isn’t possible, there is always hypnosis.

Hopefully this sheds some light on one of my favourite ways to experience the world. If people want to see how it feels to be hypnotised, I am able to oblige as I can give as well as receiving. I am a certified hypnotherapist and will treat people with the utmost attention to confidentiality and ethics. You can find more info about this on the area of my blog dedicated to working with me.

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Review of the Rocks-Off Ruby Glow

Since discovering that in fact, I do like vibes, I’ve looked for things to review and one of them, because of its unusual design and audience, was the Rocks-Off Ruby Glow and I am so glad I did. If you have no idea what is being put into your hand, you will be baffled at first unless you’ve read reviews and know what you’re looking for.

It’s so hard to describe but basically, it’s a silicone-covered piece of plastic that has a ball at one end and a thing like a tooth with notches on one side at the other. It sits on a flat surface with the ball and the tooth thing sticking out on the top. It has two buttons at the tooth end to adjust both the ball and the tooth. There are 10 functions for each motor as well. The idea is that you sit on it and ride it. it is powered by two tripple A batteries.

I’ve been cynical about riding things but this device actually worked for me. I sat on it with the ball bit where my vagina is and the tooth bit such that I can rub my clit onit and rock back and forward and that worked really well. i even had a very nice building-up type orgasm that I like. It’s only happened once so far but edging with this vibe is really pleasant. It’s non-penetrative so if I want to be filled, I will need to put in some Kegel balls or similar.

I didn’t expect to like this toy as much as I did. I was very pleasantly surprised and am happy to recommend it to those who want hands-free outer stimulation.

I look forward to being allowed to review more from Rocks-Off as it feels like they could be a good fit for me. I love unusual vibes as well as bullets and pebbles.

Dimensions

Length: 6.5 inches or 16.51 CM
Girth: 7 inches or 17.78 CM at largest point
Width: 2.25 inches or 5.71 CM at largest point
Material: body safe phalate
free silicone
cleaning: It’s splash proof so gentle soap and water or a toy cleaner will do the trick

if you would like to get your hands on a Rocks-Off Ruby Glow, you can buy it at
SheVibe Pleasure Boutique
and
LoveHoney

A Piece of Happy and Exciting News

On Friday, I was sent the email that I have been selected to speak at Eroticon UK in mid March next year. I’ll be talking about Erotic Hypnosis and Differences in Talking Dirty and I can’t wait!!

With the piles of things I have to do before then, I’m a little bit apprehensive but not nearly as much as I was going to Woodhull. For starters, I have the news really early so I can plan for things like sponsorship and payment. This is a huge relief as the Woodhull stuff took a huge toll on my money situation even though I did it pretty cheaply all things considered. For someone on a fixed income and with the burden of an OCD husband asking about every spent penny, that was no mean feat.

I’m looking forward to seeing all of my British fellow bloggers and maybe some from other parts of the world. I’m hoping to get lots of sponsors so I can be one of those who gives out swag this year. I’m also hoping to get ideas for the Australian version a group of us are wanting to put out next September.

Maybe there will be an Eroticon After Dark session as well. That would be a lot of fun. Above all though, I’m hoping to have fun and learn a lot like I did at Woodhull.

This looks like it will be a short post but it’s a first of many and I hope to put out more as the time grows closer.

Review of the We-Vibe Sync

Everyone has one. The company or toy that is the equivalent of your first love. Mine is We-Vibe.

I didn’t like vibrators. Any I tried to use just didn’t work or didn’t feel good or just felt too mechanical or the orgasms didn’t give me that going up the slope feeling I could get with using my hands. Then I got the We-Vibe Sync and everything changed completely.

The We-Vibe Sync is a U shape with flexible hinges that adjust to suit the body’s shape. There is a fatter side which sits on the clitoris and a thinner side that sits inside roughly where the G-Spot should be. You can control it via its button that is on the clit side, the remote control which comes with the vibe or through the WeConnect app which is available on Ios and Android. It has the usual ten speeds and patterns and you can make your own when you use the app.

The app is accessible as such on Ios but very clunky with Voice-Over. I’m not sure how it works with the Google Accessibility Suite or TalkBack. It is compatible with Ios version 9, iPhone 5 and Android 4.4 or later.

Adding a lover isn’t fun unless someone sends you a link and you can open that in the app. Also, I’ve had the experience that the app crashes a lot on the other side, the connection doesn’t stay on for very long and things just take so long to set up that frustration is the name of the game. Hopefully this will change soon because I want to experience teledildonics at its best.

I tried it the first time and though I didn’t come with it, I edged for a long time. Then came the day when I came from it and I wanted to sing Hallelujah. See I had never had a hands-free orgasm in a sexual way and I find it hard to let another person make me orgasm without my help. I did it with the WeVibe Sync and it wasn’t completely mechanical. It actually felt good and I could keep doing it. This was a huge milestone for me. This is why I on the one hand want to wax lyrical and on the other hand, have no words. If it’s not situated right, I need to move it really quickly while coming because it’s too much otherwise.

Then there is the feeling when someone else controls it from their device. I love hackers. this is something everyone knows about me. Everyone else is scared of them, I’m the one that says “gimme!!” So the idea of someone controlling my sexual pleasure via some kind of teledildonics and talking infosec while doing it is the hottest thing there is on this Earth for me. The fact that this is a possibility is amazing to me and I’m glad I have a toy that does it and is relatively accessible. I can tell a sighted or blind person what to do with it It’s a hugely level playing field.

In the box you get the toy itself, the USB charger, the hard plastic case, a sample of lube and the remote control as well as various paper things. It’s slightly different if you get it in the Anniversary Collection but I don’t have that as yet but when I do, I will talk about it.

Dimensions: 74.8 mm x 31.4 mm x 41.7 mm or 2.95 inches x 1.22 inches x 1.64 inches.
Material: silicone coating
Body safe: yes
Waterproof: yes

If you want to get yourself one of these, you can get it from SheVibe Pleasure Boutique which is an affiliate link.

Affiliate links were used in this post. I bought this toy as a birthday present for myself before becoming a blogger but this means I have it to review.

Love At First Sight

Something many people will want to know about how it is to be blind is “Does love at first sight exist?” The answer: yes it really does but it happens differently.

Generally speaking, a person’s voice is the equivalent of that first look. You hear someone’s voice for the first time and that’s it. Then they just smell right as well as having the perfect voice and then after that, you get to know that their personality just works. Sometimes, you can just feel all of those things very quickly.

Because the voice is often the first thing you know about a new person, there is such a thing as love at first sight over a phone or voice medium and that can be disconcerting for people who don’t realise it exists.

Many of the best and saddest relationships I have had were because of love at first sight. I tend to trust my intuition about them with mixed results. I suppose it’s like that for everyone but I am not sure.

The sexual intensity has varied as well which surprised me. I think though that the reason for that was due to me not realising I needed to list my word triggers and make sure they were used. Now, whether it be love at first sight or a play partner, I do that regardless and things are so much better in both cases.

It has also happened with me and not the other person before. My brain has tricked me in those situations too because it sees things that either aren’t there or that the other person doesn’t see. I’ve often got to be on my guard when that happens because I don’t want to violate consent and not realise.

So yes, love at first sight does exist for me and it’s very powerful. It just manifests in different ways. It’s just that “sight” refers to all of love’s multi-sensory experiences.