A Review of the Chaiamo by Rocks Off

I was fortunate to attend Eroticon this year and one of the wonderful things that you can always rely on at conferences such as this is swag and lots of it. I was also able to meet up with the sponsors, one of whom was the Rocks Off Ruby Glow. Tabitha Rayne was very welcoming and couldn’t wait to show me all of the wonderful things at her table after giving me a huge hug. One of these devices was the Chaiamo Classic Vibrator from Rocks Off.

Imagine a lipstick vibe but super sized with a velvety silicone finish and the diagonal on both ends, one of which has the button. The button end has hard plastic but the action end is covered with the silicone. It’s about the size a Pocket Rocket would be and it packs a punch.

It is amazingly rumbly and Princess Clittie seems to react to it very quickly without feeling battered like would often happen with hard plastic lipstick vibes. I managed to have two orgasms in quick succession and they didn’t feel mechanical at all. One good orgasm is the norm and it happens in a couple of minutes and that is rare for a vibe.

The Chaiamo feels velvety soft to the touch because of the silicone, has a magnetic USB charger, charges for three hours and gives you three hours of playtime and has ten speeds and patterns. I’m not normally a pattern eprson but some of the wavy ones are really nice for my body type. I don’t have exact dimensions but I am guessing it is about 5 to 6 inches or 13.5 to 15 CM in length and an inch or 2.5 cm in width.

I would love to wax lyrical about this vibe. I’ve been using only this toy for most of my trip and the fact that I get quick orgasms from it has made a very difficult situation a lot easier.

You can get yourself one of these little beauties at Peep Show Toys and I will make a little bit of commission when you do as it is an affiliate link.

here is an article about the Ruby Glow from Tabitha herself as I wanted to mention the Eroticon sponsors.
href=”https://therubyglow.com/2019/01/25/ruby-glow-to-sponsor-eroticon-for-third-year/” rel=”nofollow”>Ruby Glow to sponsor Eroticon for third year

A Review of the Frank’s Monster by Lust Arts Fantasy Adult Toys

Last year, I was lucky enough to be given a Frank’s Monster dildo by the lovely people at Lust Arts to review and though it’s taken me a while to get there, it’s time to make that review a reality.

The Frank’s Monster is made of dual density silicone which means it is body safe. It is also very textured without being horrible to clean. It does tend to gobble up lube when used so make sure you have a lot of water-based lube on hand when using it.

For me, it’s a case of my eyes being a bit too big for my belly because I got the biggest sized one. I think I would be better off with the one a size down from that. It did feel good and girthy when I used it and I had a lovely big orgasm but it took ages to get it in right and there was a bit of tenderness after use despite lots of lube. I think if I get another one, it will be the size down and perhaps slightly squishier but not squishy enough to be bendy.

I also found the huge balls on the bottom to be a little bit difficult to hold onto, particularly with slippery lube.

I think I would definitely use and enjoy this toy if I made the aforementioned changes when ordering it for myself. I have to say, the people at the company were very accomodating and always ready to help.

Dimensions

Total length: 7.8 inches or 19.8 CM
Diameter: 2.75 inches or 4 CM

If you would like to buy yourself a Frank’s Monster from Lust Arts, you can get one by going to Lust Arts Fantasy Adult Toys

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Holding Hands

Wicked Wednesday... a place to be wickedly sexy or sexily wicked

I sit at the table and you come over to me, sit next to or even opposite me. I feel your hand as you take mine, fingers sliding over the sides and palm, pressing on parts of my hand to open it, opening my hand as if you wanted to open the rest of me. You hold it down on the table, as if you were going to restrain me and then, with all of your fingers, you explore the contours, the veritable ins and outs of my hand as if you were looking me up and down from head to toe.

outwardly, the conversation is relatively inocuous but the one your hand is having with mine is basically telling me that you are going to have me, it’s just a question of how and when.

The feel of you holding my hand down on the tabletop is like you telling me that you will use all manner of restraints on me, maybe rope, maybe cuffs, maybe something else entirely. Perhaps you will just restrain me with my own mind.

I feel you take your finger and gently and rhythmically rub my palm with it. You may as well be telling me how you are going to enter me, just remove all of my defenses and make me take what you have to give.

Eventually, you have to let go of my hand but in that oh so brief time while you envelop my fingers in your mesmerising grip, you have the power to say so much without words.

Eroticon the Sunday Last in a Three Part Series

Sunday started a little bit later than Saturday which was really nice because it gave us some time to recover from Saturday night.

After the little welcome thingy, which was smaller than that of the Saturday because Saturday was where we listened to all of our little messages that had been put out on cards on the Friday night to replace the keynote that someone had to cancel because of a family emergency, I ran along to Kink Craft again, this time to make a collar. There is nothing better than being able to make things and take them home with you. I love crafty things and being able to make kinky crafty things was one of the highlights of the whole weekend.

Lunch was quite quick for me this year and afterwards, there was dessert and readings. This was my first Eroticon so I had never experienced this but the readings were hugely hot. I mean, I was squirming in my chair listening to them. I wanted to be the one begging to come for Sir. I liked the earthiness and the differences and even hearing some voices I hadn’t heard yet.

Talking to Adam from Godemiche was great as well. He gave me some wonderful feedback about my talk from the day before as well as a lovely toy I can take home to review. I met his wife and she was a bit harried but after we stopped for a bit longer and I was able to talk a little bit of Polish with her, she went away smiling and I felt warm and fuzzy inside.

I went around briefly to check in with the sponsors again and saw Nina from Temptation Holidays. I was so happy to talk to her and though I didn’t get a holiday, I got a sweet teddy and a toat bag with some lovely things inside it. Did I mention how much I love swag?

There were two sessions at the end which were so helpful for me. The one from Molly about how to improve the look of your site and the one by Girl On The Net about growing your numbers and improving your traffic. I learnt so much from both of those talks and will be talking to Molly about getting help with visuals when she’s not swamped with other things.

All of these talks have given me things to do, concrete ways to improve things and I want to do as much of that as I can as quickly and efficiently as possible before I forget.

After the raffle, which I didn’t win, we went to the bar of the Holiday Inn for drinks and chatty times. I stayed there for a bit and after fish and chips in a 1940’s style fish and chips shop with Eve Ray, I came back and talked with a small group including Cara Thereon. We discussed the parallels between being black and being blind; how both groups have to deal with similar issues from the public; how even though we are different, we understand each other on a certain level; how different Eroticon is from Woodhull; all of these similarities and differences.

I also got the chance to say goodbye to Kayla Lords and John Brownstone and I thanked them for seeing me as a person, as a sub, as all the things. John was having trouble resisting that big long plait so I told him “It’s OK, you can pull it, I’m OK with that.” He did and it felt so good. It wasn’t hard or flashy but it was a nice little imperative that made me feel seen and gave me warmth from my head to my toes. I love when things like that happen.

It was little things like that that were the highlights of this whole trip. Just being seen, acknowledged, like the fact that lots of people commented on my velvet type cape. “Who’s the lady with the cape?” I made a statement with my clothes, something I don’t often know how to do, but it worked this time. I am thinking of wearing a velvety dress under that cape next year.

Eroticon is my place and these are definitely my peeps. I want to go back next year or even see if I can get people to come to an Australian equivalent if we can get one started. I learnt so much and got to meet so many wonderful people and do things I had never done before. I feel more in control of the living entity that is my blog now and if that had been the only thing I came away with, it would have been big enough but as it is, I came away with so much that is both invaluable and immeasurable.

I am linking this post to Eroticon Aftermath so that everyone can see.

Eroticon Saturday Part Two in a Three Part Series

After a little bit of sleep, I woke up and Girl On The Net brought me to Arlington House where the conference was being held. I got my goody bag and my goodness do I love getting swag!! It had two coffee mugs in it and I got a third one which was a travel mug. There were some paper pamphlet thingies in there too which I gave to her to give to others but there was a wonderful toat bag and even a little jar of honey. I also put my things on the buy swap sell table and though some of it didn’t sell, a couple of things did.

I had my talk after that about erotic hypnosis and differences in talking dirty. That went relatively well, although I think I needed to have a list of resources on hand for the people who were there. I will do that next time. I was amazed at how many people came to my talk and how receptive and engaged they were. I’ve never done a talk and imagined a room with no one turning up but that didn’t happen. People were interested in what I had to say and that feels a bit weird.

I promised earlier in the week that streight after my talk, I would go to visit the people at the fetish.com booth where I did the 69 second challenge and got some lovely goodies. I will be working with them and look forward to that as well.

Afterwards I went and relaxed with the people from Kink Craft. Andrew and Pixie were so sweet and I was able to make a mini flogger which will have pride of place when I find a bracket to hang up my impact toys.

Lunch was really tasty and while I was enjoying it, I got to meet the person behind Lexie Mueller, with whom I had a conversation about books and who was an aussie ex pat as well, as well as Jerusalem Mortimer who has one of the yummiest voices. I was maybe a bit too enthusiastic about it but he was alright with that. I made sure I followed the person behind Lexie Mueller and will be reading all the bookies at length. No, I mean books, not horseracing.

The talk that said velvet-voiced Mr. Mortimer gave about the history of BDSM in literature was very interesting as well. I had heard of some of the aspects but not all and it was telling that even back then they tried to remove it from the history books but didn’t succeed. The hug I got at the end was really nice as well.

There was a panel after that with Molly, Hyacinth, Kayla and Marie about how to make and participate in memes and I learnt a lot from that. I will be participating in a lot more memes from now on. I even have a picture for Sinful Sunday.

Kink Lab was interesting. i wanted to know if electro play was something I could get to enjoy with practice. Turns out, it really isn’t. One tiny tingle with the slowest setting and I was almost in tears with fear and sensory overload. The fact that there is a kink where I will have to say no to people, where I will have to draw a hard line, that made me want to cry. I know there are some I have always said will do that but feeling it, being confronted by it, well, that hurt inside. I need to actually grok that being a people pleaser will have its down sides. Knowing it and experiencing it are completely different things.

I went away from that to see the table full of kinky implements including pervertables. A mini cricket bat, a cheese board, a claw for pulling pulled pork, a derm abrasion roller thingy. All these things can be made into kinky implements. Michael might be making misery sticks next year so that will be interesting.

After some yummy food and a stop at my airb&b, which was absolutely brilliant by the way, I went to the Saturday night social. It was loud and there were lots and lots of people there. I found it difficult to socialise for most of the time but there were a couple of highlights.

I was seen as a sub!!

OK, so the person who saw me had had a bit too much to drink and was slightly impaired judgement wise, but he actually saw me. he took my hand and talked to me but there was this underlying conversation going on as well and that is rare at places like this. There was a feeling of wanting to obey so badly and I knew it for what it was and I didn’t necessarily want to be obeying *him* but it felt so good to be seen and validated as the submissive I am rather than blind first or fat first or something else that prevents people from seeing me as I am in my natural state so to speak.

I was able to sit and talk to and be scratched by a lovely man in the lobby bar of the Holiday Inn!

We talked for a while, acknowledged that we got on well and if things were different, maybe there could have been play of a different kind but it didn’t have to happen. He saw me as well and that was enough for me. He scratched me, just on the arm, but my wow did that feel so good!! He saw how it turned me into a begging subby mess and I enjoyed that level of play more than if there had been a marathon sex session.

After such a wonderful day, it was going to be hard to top it. More about that in part three.

I am linking this post to Eroticon Aftermath so that everyone can see.

Eroticon UK The Meet And Greet Part 1 in a 3 part Series

Tonight was the Meet And Greet for Eroticon 2019 and It is my first time there. Because I have been a little lax in my posts, I have decided to write things down just after they happen so they stay clear in my mind and I can process what happens.

I was picked up by Girl On The Net at around 7:15 in the evening and we walked down to the Holiday Inn where the social event was being held. It was wonderful to meet her and to have a little bit of time before everything started. It seems, as I found out later in the night, that we have a love of techy people in common. It was wonderful that she understood my feelings regarding yummy nerds. It was one of the highlights of my night.

It was also wonderful to walk into a room and to hear the different voices of all of the various bloggers. Some of them sounded as I expected and others didn’t. I had the same experience when I went to Woodhull last year.

Highlights included getting hugs from Jay and Tess, talking with John Brownstone at length about various kinks and meeting an autistic blogger and Mother of three autistic children with whom I had never interacted previously. We were both wearing very sensory clothes. Mine was soft and her dress was crunchy. She said that some of the hand movements I make a similar to hers and I felt understood and validated.

I’m so happy to have met everyone. I look forward to meeting more people tomorrow and though I am nervous about my talk, I think it should be okay.

Part two happens tomorrow.

I am linking this post to Eroticon Aftermath so that everyone can see.

Eroticon Online Meet and Greet 2019 Bianca from Helen’s Toybox

Eroticon 2019 Attending

NAME (and Twitter if you have one)

My name is Bianca and you can find me tweeting, lerking and commenting about my paroxisms of lust about nerdy twitter at @helenstoybox

Tell us 3 things you are most looking forward to at Eroticon 2019

1. Being able to put voices to all of the wonderful people I have been sharing my twitter timeline with for so long. I often say I give big squishy hugs if someone needs them. Now, if they want it, I finally get the chance to do it in person and put actions to my words.
2. Goody bags and Kink Craft. Yes, I am a little kid sometimes. I love prezzies and making things to take home. It’s one of my biggest weaknesses ever but I am going to stand by it this time and say yes yes yes, I love it and bring on the receiving!!!
3. The moment when I have done my presentation and can go enjoy the rest of the conference. I am so happy I get to be one of the first so the rest of the time is for me. I have never spoken at one of these places before so I am really nervous and hoping I get things right so yeah, I look forward to the end of my speaking bit for that reason.

We are creating a play list of songs for the Friday Night Meet and Greet. Nominate one song that you would like us to add to the play list and tell us why you picked that song.

The song I am looking to put on the playlist this year is Even When I’m Sleeping by the band Leonardo’s Bride. It is the quintessential lovesong of my whole life. Just about every partner I have had has had it shown to them and it came out when I was 16 and was with my first love. Fitting that it’s at a conference talking about all things love, sex and intimacy.

What is your favourite item or book you’ve purchased so far this year?

I haven’t purchased very many things this year simply because purchases are so frought with feelings for me. I purchased my tickets for going away and that was good but also bad because only part of it is for fun.

There is one thing though that has been good for me and will be good for other friends of mine because of practicality. You can get silicone lube from Wet Stuff that comes inside gel capsules. This is wonderful for blind people and also people with sensory issues. It means they don’t have to touch the icky lube but can use it. I told my friends and they are so happy about it because it’s going to make their lives easier and I feel good that I was able to do that for them.

You can have an unlimited supply of one thing for the rest of your life, what is it? Sushi? Scotch Tape?

If it were to be a tangible thing, I would say food. Not ever having to worry about how to get it and how to pay for it would be a wonderful thing.

If it were to be intangible, I would have to debate between loving understanding, that feeling when someone just gets you and it is so much mor seldom than it is needed, and inventiveness. That ability to create necessities out of anything you have could do so much good for so many people.

What is your favourite quote from a movie?

I don’t really do movies much. I remember bits out of movies but not so much quotes. The whole of Bohemian Rhapsody was amazing and I liked how Freddy used the quote “Good words, good thoughts, good deeds” to trip up his Father who had beat him with that quote his whole life.

What is your word suggestion to next years Eroticon anthology?

Acceptance

Complete the sentence:
I feel…
your fingers, brushing my shoulder, your tempting touch, as it tingles my spine … Dangerous Game from the musical Jekyll and Hyde

Eroticon 2019 Virtual Meet and Greet

Big Changes

It’s been a strange couple of weeks. I’ve been so busy that sitting down to write a post has just not been in the cards but because so much has happened, maybe I can process my thoughts and give you all a big post, perhaps two in the space of a very short time. WE’ll see.

I had a friend staying here for almost a month and it was wonderful to watch her confidence expand so much. She’s so often put down by her family and seeing her spread her wings and feel good enough to answer back sometimes was a wonderful experience.

It was also amazing to watch the process of her new D/S situation begin to unfold, together with the partner of the other person. He and I met on a dating app and then all four of us met and the dynamic just fitted together so well.

Both of us ended up having lovely photo shoots which were done so we could feel the experience and we put some of the pics on our fet profiles. That’s not something I would have done as recently as six months ago. It did help that I had code drawn on every inch of my body that was exposed. Now if that’s not an insentive, I don’t know what is.

It was very sad to see her go and also to see how much the two of them miss each other. I hope she comes back soon and I hope things work out between the two of them because seeing new love happen feels so good to me. It’s like stepping into a warm bath, just the right temperature, and with the right amount of bubble bath and scent. I’m glad there was a bit of nice stuff because there were some things to balance that out as there usually are.

I am flying halfway across the world, partly to sort out stuff from my previous life and partly to speak at Eroticon and getting ready for that is a task and a half. I had to use most of my pay for the airb&b this week so right now, there’s very little in my bank account. Thing is, I will manifest it when I need it and freelance work tends to do that. Still, it is a worry until it happens.

While I am away, my little house will be hosting a friend who is getting out of an abusive relationship. People, just so you know, it’s not just women who get abused. This person is a cishet white man but he has had it rough for a very long time and his confidence has been seriously undermined. When I saw him last week, he was a mess. He was literally shaking the whole time and could barely use his phone. His partner called me some not very nice names and he got so mad at her that he felt rage enough to need to get out of the situation. I offered him my place for the time I am away and hopefully, his family will help him to get his place sorted by that time. I’ll keep him as long as I have to so he doesn’t go back to that toxic situation.

This past Friday gone, I went to a play party and had a spanking from someone who knew what they were doing for the first time. The last piece of impact play I had, the person was very new themselves and as it turns out, went very easy on me. I was co-topped by two wonderful people and it was a very physical experience. I didn’t experience any feelings of submission, just pain and some sensory pleasure. The drop was real though. I’ve never experienced that in this kind of situation. The closest thing to it is the feeling you get when you get bad news. Aftercare is so important and it was given to me in spades by the people who did the spanking. I got drinks and lollies and hugs and it helped. I felt so awful that I didn’t get the wonderful feelings. So much of my kink is mental and when it’s so physical like that, it’s so tempting to dissociate and I was very close to that but because I had to communicate my hneeds, that didn’t happen. I think next time, there has to be a mental component for me to experience any kinds of feelings. I’m not a pain person. I am a sensory and pleasure person and I know this for certain now.

A couple of the people at the party had some health issues and I was allowed to give them both reflexology massages. That balanced everything else out. I was allowed to serve and be subby in an unobtrusive way so that any subs that any of them may have had would not feel that I wanted to take their place, not that that would have been a thing in this case, but just in case, the service was so different that it worked well in that way. It gave me a sense of purpose and balance that I needed afterwards as a different form of aftercare.

There has also been another situation with a couple of people in my life possibly having to work together professionally and that caused some issues last week with one of them that luckily got ironed out quickly enough but it was touch and go for a while. I must admit, there were scenarios to do with this situation where I didn’t have the answers but now the Universe has manifested my answer and as usual, in a way that was unexpected.

My little and I are as of today in a non-sexual dynamic as he has found someone else who is close to him and he would like to explore that situation without there being anything else other than that. It’s fresh and there is lots of NRE but this is where it stands now. I must admit, I needed a bit of time to process this as it was quite sudden but on the other hand, it fixes the situation I was talking about in such a way that both my little and the other person will have no further issues.

This means I am feeling sadness, relief, apprehension, anticipation, a few other things in the mix, just there are so many feelings that it is taking a lot of my energy to process them. I basically spent the whole day in bed yesterday and half of today as well. I just needed to be away from the world a little bit.

Now tomorrow, I get to be a fat person flying on an aeroplane and hoping that the Universe manifests me some space and makes things as complication free as possible. Next post will come from halfway across the world.

The Sexual Orientation Lightbulb Moment

I discovered something a little while ago which to some people may be a little thing but to me is huge and it happened while I was working on my profile on OKCupid. They count sapiosexuality as a sexual orientation!!

Intelligence has always been the first criterion with which I have measured attractiveness. I didn’t even realise until now that it even removes gender from the equation and that is new for me. Voice is of course hugely important to me but there is a point before I have the experience of the voice where the mind comes first. This is where I realise that my true sexual orientation is not bi or pansexual like I thought. It’s sapiosexual. I measure a person’s attractiveness on their level of intelligence and capability to deal with adversity. Listening to a person cracking code and explaining how they do it is the equivalent of the hottest porn movie on the planet for me.Someone being passionate about what they can do is guaranteed to give me wet panties. There is nothing sexier to me then to hear someone expostulating on something which requires a lot of intelligence. Having said that, it is also a given that the person needs to actually know what they are talking about. Posing is extremely unattractive.

It is not the only measurement for physical attraction for me. A person needs to show empathy honesty and integrity as well. It is just the first level. It is the thing that will get a person noticed. It is the thing that captures my emotions and my heart.

It is the reason why, from now on, if there is an option to tick the box labelled Sapiosexual on a form regarding sexual orientation, that will be me all the way.

A Review of the Splashpad from Anna Rae

You know how sometimes a few little things can come together and if the timing were a little different or the day a little off, things would change drastically? Well it was like that with my experiences with the Splashpad.

I put in an order for a few Cumpanions and Cuddles and Anna Rae let me know that something new and exciting was going to come in soon and it was going to be the Splashpad. Around the same time, one of my very good friends, who is a prolific squirter had been having trouble with ruining her bed. As she is also a play friend, I thought it would be a prime opportunity to test things out for a review.

I gave it to her as a birthday present and so I waited for her to come to visit me and she opened it up and immediately noticed how soft it was. She asked if it was going to work so as I’d never used it before, it being brand new, we decided to test it out.

Now this girl doesn’t just splash a little bit. She gushes. You can hear it when it happens. It happens multiple times as well and she goes for a relatively long time. By the time we were done, she could put her hand on the splashpad and it made a squelching sound there was so much fluid.

When I felt underneath the splashpad and on my mattress, there was nothing there!!! The Splashpad had absorbed all of that fluid and not let a single drop go onto my bed!!

I’ve washed it a few times in the washing machine and dried it too and nothing bad has happened there either. It just goes back to its usual state and you can use it again.

I am so impressed with this device, I want to get one for myself to take to play dates or parties in case someone is lucky enough to make squirting happen for me. The good thing about it is that it folds up to a relatively small size so you can put it into a relatively small backpack to take to play dates or parties.

You can get one of these here

Dimensions: Length: 3 feet or 90 CM
Width 2.5 feet or 75 CM

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The Cuddle Bean I referred to in this post is now called the Playmate. I kept the name as it was because that is what it was called when I bought it.